Colossians 3:12 AMPC
[12] Clothe yourselves therefore, as God's own chosen ones (His own picked representatives), [who are] purified and holy and well-beloved [by God Himself, by putting on behavior marked by] tenderhearted pity and mercy, kind feeling, a lowly opinion of yourselves, gentle ways, [and] patience [which is tireless and long-suffering, anx,>;×s3nd has the power to endure whatever comes, with good temper].
As is the custom, we consider the audience of this letter, in order to understand the weight of the message in the verse above. Paul and his son in the faith, Timothy, are credited with writing this letter to the church in Colosse, and this letter is addressed to the saints: the people consecrated by God, and who are faithfully following and serving Him. The first point to note here is that God sees and knows all about me. There is nothing like 'secrets' when it comes to God. He made the heart, so He fully understands all its dimensions. It will be a pointless venture to seek to keep the heart's focus away from the attention of the One who made it. It is best to surrender it to Him.
It is the foundation above that drives the words of the verse above. Anyone who has surrendered his heart to God for safe-keeping and guidance cannot at the same time, insist on his own way. There is a particular way that a surrendered heart appears, speaks, and relates with other people. It cannot be the same way the people under the influence and control of the world's system would appear or speak. That internal condition is key to all external expressions. As God's own chosen representative, I have to appear in a certain way that looks like my ownership; after all, the One I represent is the One whose view and opinion count.
If He is happy with my service. It really does not matter what anyone else thinks. If He is also not happy, it still does not matter how much applause I get. This desire to be liked by everyone will lead to compromise and hypocrisy. Like Paul, there may be times when you need to identify with the challenges and realities of the people you seek to preach salvation to, but it must never be at the expense of the truth of God's word, and His standards. We also know that in those days, the appearance of a man would usially reveal who he was or where he was from. If we apply this to the spiritual, can men deduce who I am and whose I am, simply by the way I appear, speak or relate with other people?
Let us check out what the verse above requires of all who seek to look like God: a tender heart, pity for and mercy on others; kindness, patience, long-suffering, endurance and a good temper. Do we notice how many dimensions of the fruit of the Spirit is in the verse above? This tells me that I cannot exhibit anything that looks like the above without the imprint and impression of the Holy Spirit in and on me. These are not things you get by labour or by inheritance; these are born and sustained by the presence of God in me. His life in me will definitely flow out to touch others. Do I look like my ownership? Is God evident in and through me? God's time of favour is here.