James 1:19 AMPC
[19] Understand [this], my beloved brethren. Let every man be quick to hear [a ready listener], slow to speak, slow to take offense and to get angry.
James was one of the servants of the Lord Jesus Christ, and he was writing to the Jews who, because of their faith, were scattered abroad among the Gentiles. Ordinarily, it must have been a horrible experience for a Jew to find himself aligned with a Gentile, or even requiring anything from such a person, but the death and resurrection of Jesus had opened up some amazing opportunities for both the Jew and the Gentile to find common ground. The trials and afflictions that come from being associated with Christ would apply to both the Jew and the Gentile. The need to depend on the strength available in Christ would apply to both the Jew and the Gentile.
No wonder James began his letter by charging his audience to consider it all joy as they faced different types of trials and tough times. It is only a person who has seen past the current challenges of life, and has seen the future, that can look ahead to tough times with joy. It is clear it is not the usual human reaction to trials, but there is a Presence, Power, and Purpose inside a surrendered heart that make it possible to view tough times as reasons for joy. This is not a message that applies to the general crowd; it is for true disciples. The things that cause fear for the crowd provides encouragement for the disciple. Am I truly one?
For the disciple who has the presence of God in him, there is a standard of behaviour also expected, when it comes to relating with fellow human beings. If I know that God lives in me, I will be intentional about how I live, what I do, and how I do it. The inner presence must drive outer impact. This is where the lessons in the verse above makes sense: this is for the attention of brethren, not the uncommitted crowd. Be quick to hear as a ready listener. I must also remember that it costs less to listen than it is to speak. A listening ear has become scarce these days, because everyone has an opnion, but nobody wants to take the time to offer empathy by listening.
There is a reason why God gave us two ears and one mouth, and it is so we can listen at least twice as much as we speak. If I take my time to process all I hear, and take time to reflect before I respond, there will be less offence and more grace extended to those who I relate with. A child of God is not expected to react negatively to everything that happens, because the devil too is crafty, and he can magnify a simple issue into a life-threat. Do not give the devil that much power over you; he just needs a foothold into a life in order to destroy it. As a child of God, I must know who I represent. Do my current choices make that clear? God's time of favour is here.