Ephesians 4:32 AMPC
[32] And become useful and helpful and kind to one another, tenderhearted (compassionate, understanding, loving-hearted), forgiving one another [readily and freely], as God in Christ forgave you.
Paul was wrting this letter to the church in Ephesus. This church had come a long way from the time Paul asked Timothy to stay back there and counter the wave of false teaching that had gripped the church at the time. By the grace of God, there were saints who had held on to the truth of God's word, remaining faithful to biblical standards. These were the people Paul referred to as set apart and consecrated. Who says it is over when God has just started with you? As long as God has not given up on me, no other person's opinion matters. The encouragement of this letter is that in the hands of God, no life is worthless.
He is able to keep that which is entrusted into His hand. However, like all lives that God touches, there is a need for constant and regular reminders of the standards we are required to attain and maintain. At the start of the chapter from where the verse above is taken, we read of Paul's reminder to the saints to lead a life worthy of the divine calling to which they had been called. Reflect on this: all of us who made the decision to leave all and follow Christ were not compelled to do so. We thought about our past, and realising we needed a change of direction and destination, we totally surrendered our lives to Him. That is proof that the new has come.
If that is our new position, it means we now live by and have different pursuits, priorities and purposes. There is a behavior that is a credit to the summons to God's service. I am not permitted to keep doing what I used to do before my encounter with Jesus. I am not permitted to keep giving carelessly. I have been summoned to service, and as required under new management, I have to abide by the rules of engagement under that new management. I must keep reminding myself that God does not force Himself on anyone; my decision to follow Him was of my own freewill, and as a result, I am bound to obey His directives.
As the verse above makes clear, I do not get to choose what is quite convenient, but I am bound to do that which Christ commands. This is not a negotiation. There is a reason why I am placed in the midst of people, so that my new life can be a blessing to others. I am reminded to be useful and helpful and kind to other people, as well as tenderhearted, loving-hearted, and ready to forgive others freely. It is in my daily interactions with people that the quality of my convictions will be made quite manifest. When I remember what I have also received of God, it becomes easier to obey. If I have Him, I cannot hide Him. God's time of favour is here.