Proverbs 31:30 AMP
[30] Charm and grace are deceptive, and [superficial] beauty is vain, But a woman who fears the Lord [reverently worshiping, obeying, serving, and trusting Him with awe-filled respect], she shall be praised.
We usually quote the verse above in the context of a woman who fears God, and that would be correct, but I am sure we know that the principles laid out in the verse above apply to all persons, male or female. We are all taught how to present ourselves; we learn grooming, etiquette and accpetable behaviour as we grow. We are placed in the midst of families, and the society at large, so we can learn acceptable norms, and pattern our lives and character after these norms. We learn what is acceptable in society as we grow, and re-learning, unlearning and resetting so many ideas that make us fit into whatever society we have been planted in. That is the physical side to our existence.
There are reasons why we are not taken away from the earth as soon as we are born again. We are left here on earth in order to impact and affect the earth the right way. As part of our earthly phase, we take care of our bodies, as we should, knowing that our bodies are the temple of God, in which He seeks to dwell. You do not treat carelessly that which has been given to you in trust. You do not handle with levity the valuable treasure that has been entrusted into your hand. We have a duty to nurture that which is given to us, and that is where charm and grace are important. Esther the queen knew the importance of this; there was a place for proper outward preparation, before she could stand before the king.
The warning, however, is to know the place and limits of charm. It helps to open doors and give access tto great men, but it appears that it is not enough to rely on the outward alone. As we know, there are doors external preparation will open for you, but only the inner preparation will sustain you when those doors close behind you. The external is great, as it gives a beautiful first impression, but after a great first impression, what else have I got? The verse above makes a reference to superficial beauty; as great as it is to present myself the right way, I must know that the outer is temporary, and only that which is tied to the fear of God lasts forever.
The verse refers to a woman who fears the Lord, reverently worshiping, obeying, serving, and trusting Him with awe-filled respect. This is relevant to anyone and everyone who makes an approach to God in the same way. What does the fear of God lead me to? It keeps me grounded and humble; I seek to please and honour Him in my daily choices and decisions. I make it a duty to relate with God regularly, not when the occasion calls for it. I do not seek to turn God into a dispensing machine, only coming to Him when I need a thing or two. If I seek God the right way, He will also back me up. What treasure awaits the one who fears the Lord. Do you? Do I? God's time of favour is here.